*It is interesting to observe an adult to talk with a child.
In other words, an adult to ‘play’ with a child.
My observation is, very few adults know how to interact with a child.
Occasionally, the child speaks lines like a mature person and that too in timely manner. Most of the adults slip here, taking the lines ‘personally’ and either defending oneself or attacking the child.
So, the primary condition to be talk-able to a child is- capability of handling one’s ego.
And in such situation, attacking the child teaches the child the inhuman rule of survival : attacking the creature with lower capability.
When the child behaves child like, adults confuse it with immaturity, particularly in the matter of time and handling things.
For the child, time does not exist. For the child, it doesn’t matter whether the thing is precious or delicate or dangerous; as for her, the value of the thing is only playable or not playable. And, child has the amazing ability to play with any available thing, from snake to fire to pebble to leg to…
So, adults can not enjoy the amazing imaginary world of fantasy, playing with things differently and creatively.
Also, when addressed from the same level, as a friend, the child displays unimaginable responsibility.
Some enthusiastic adults are over attentive to inform the child ‘facts’ around her. It kills the beauty of wonder sometimes.
Hear, the adult have to keep the balance of a scientist appreciating the poetry, like Capra admiring Neruda.
My observation is: the child IS Capra and Neruda (more than that, unlimited potential) ;she can admit that the moon is a satellite and still address her as her maternal uncle.
Thus, the common mistake adults commit is , considering the child as an adult while she is mimicking adults, considering the child childish when she is childlike and considering the child as a child when she can handle responsibilities.
Few examples :
@Eva learnt few magic tricks from Salimbhai. While she was performing it before a group of teachers, all of them, laden with their childish ego, ‘caught’ her trick before she finished her performance!
@at SRG workshops, Rakesh, Sonu, Harshavi, Jayeshbhai…are her friends, appreciating her continuously at the same time indulging her into learning tasks, academic as well as creative (or creatively academic!). Not a single negative remark, only friendliness, giving ‘helping’ hand considering her psycho-physical limitations and supporting her world of wonder and imagination.
In other words, an adult to ‘play’ with a child.
My observation is, very few adults know how to interact with a child.
Occasionally, the child speaks lines like a mature person and that too in timely manner. Most of the adults slip here, taking the lines ‘personally’ and either defending oneself or attacking the child.
So, the primary condition to be talk-able to a child is- capability of handling one’s ego.
And in such situation, attacking the child teaches the child the inhuman rule of survival : attacking the creature with lower capability.
When the child behaves child like, adults confuse it with immaturity, particularly in the matter of time and handling things.
So, adults can not enjoy the amazing imaginary world of fantasy, playing with things differently and creatively.
Also, when addressed from the same level, as a friend, the child displays unimaginable responsibility.
Some enthusiastic adults are over attentive to inform the child ‘facts’ around her. It kills the beauty of wonder sometimes.
Hear, the adult have to keep the balance of a scientist appreciating the poetry, like Capra admiring Neruda.
My observation is: the child IS Capra and Neruda (more than that, unlimited potential) ;she can admit that the moon is a satellite and still address her as her maternal uncle.
Thus, the common mistake adults commit is , considering the child as an adult while she is mimicking adults, considering the child childish when she is childlike and considering the child as a child when she can handle responsibilities.
Few examples :
@Eva learnt few magic tricks from Salimbhai. While she was performing it before a group of teachers, all of them, laden with their childish ego, ‘caught’ her trick before she finished her performance!
@at SRG workshops, Rakesh, Sonu, Harshavi, Jayeshbhai…are her friends, appreciating her continuously at the same time indulging her into learning tasks, academic as well as creative (or creatively academic!). Not a single negative remark, only friendliness, giving ‘helping’ hand considering her psycho-physical limitations and supporting her world of wonder and imagination.
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